Ten years ago today, I married the love of my life. Reflection, anecdotes, and more old pictures of the two of us inside.
Thank you all for coming today.
I am not normally the type to give wedding speeches. Despite the nearly fifteen wedding ceremonies I have attended since my own wedding in 2002, I have never once been asked to give a speech about the couple. (To be fair to my friends and family, I have not volunteered to, either.)
This weekend featured a quick jaunt to the New Zealand Embassy to the United States.
This may sound odd, and indeed, it was. To be honest, it’s not the sort of place I would normally expect to find myself. But I have come to expect the unexpected from [Nidhi Kalra](http://www.cs.cmu.edu/~nidhi/), fellow Cornell alum and close friend, who was married to Dave Ferguson (son of New Zealand Ambassador Roy Ferguson) last night. The ceremony was a combination Christian/Hindu wedding.
This was the fifth wedding involving people from my house from my final year at Cornell; this pushes us to the 50% married point. Another two will be married this August.
All the best to Dave and Nidhi.
**[Photos: Dave & Nidhi’s Wedding](http://www.flickr.com/photos/remydwd/sets/72157600156846074/)**
First, the one I was expecting: Congrats to our beloved friend Jen Chung on her marriage to her long-time boyfriend Jay Wilkins. The ceremony should be happening now – I couldn’t think of two nicer people to get married.
In the future, all bloggers will be married on March 25th.
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:29 PM]
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:29 PM] D=
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:29 PM] I did the same thing in 1998 against a girl I was playing Scrabble against online, using a program called X-Words Deluxe.
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:29 PM] I had bet the girl over the game; whoever lost would have to write the other an 8 page letter.
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:30 PM] I did not know this existed
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:30 PM] ahahaha
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] I won, obviously.
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] She wrote me the letter.
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:30 PM] That is so amazing
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] A year later, I would admit to cheating.
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:30 PM] I am gonna hustle people at scrabble now
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] She would hit me repeatedly.
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] Three years later, we got married.
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:30 PM] =O
Matt Fernandez (AIM) [7:30 PM] That’s so romantic
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] Shortly after that, I started working full time for the company that made X-Words Deluxe.
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] I would tell my bosses this story.
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:30 PM] They would laugh.
Dan Dickinson (AIM) [7:31 PM] And that concludes Dan Anecdote Hour.
I apologize in advance for doing this, because I know what it’s going to do to most everyone. I’m not expecting verbal complaints, but there’s a reasonable probability you might go bug eyed. Feelings of time flying by are not uncommon. There’s even a slight chance of spit take, so – just to be safe – I recommend you put away any beverages you might be drinking.
Today is our third wedding anniversary.
(I’ll give you a second to regain your composure, should you have lost it.)
To be honest, it’s been a tough year – not in terms of the marriage, but in terms of the tolls of the world. It’s a frightening age to be trying to live in; it feels like the world is on the verge of collapse more and more every day. So above and beyond all else, I’m grateful I have someone I can help support, and someone who will support me, through and through.
Rather than try to put pen to paper at this very late hour, I’m going to take the very familiar stance of pushing a song out there to speak for me. (Certain family members will be happy to note I am linking to this song legally, as it’s on the site of the artist in question.) So, for today, please listen to Ted Leo’s [The Gold Finch And The Red Oak Tree](http://tedleo.com/audio/TheGoldFinchandtheRedOakTree.mp3). It’ll only take two minutes out of your day – I promise it’s worth it.
I love you, Katie.
Major congratulations to close friends Neil & Rachel on their just-announced engagement. I know the two of you have been pondering this for a while, and it’s great to see you two making the leap.
Now comes the real fun: wedding planning! For those of you who have never been through it and want to experience similar fun, merely acquire a pair of tweezers. Then, simply attempt to pull each and every hair out of your head one at a time.
At this rate, we will have had three Cornell weddings in three years – this is a scary trend.